becauseiamawoman
it-used-to-be-fun:


My family is from Nigeria, and my full name is Uzoamaka, which means “The road is good.” Quick lesson: My tribe is Igbo, and you name your kid something that tells your history and hopefully predicts your future. So anyway, in grade school, because my last name started with an A, I was the first in roll call, and nobody ever knew how to pronounce it. So I went home and asked my mother if I could be called Zoe. I remember she was cooking, and in her Nigerian accent she said, “Why?” I said, “Nobody can pronounce it.” Without missing a beat, she said, “If they can learn to say Tchaikovsky and Michelangelo and Dostoyevsky, they can learn to say Uzoamaka.” 

Bella Naija, 2014 (x)

it-used-to-be-fun:

My family is from Nigeria, and my full name is Uzoamaka, which means “The road is good.” Quick lesson: My tribe is Igbo, and you name your kid something that tells your history and hopefully predicts your future. So anyway, in grade school, because my last name started with an A, I was the first in roll call, and nobody ever knew how to pronounce it. So I went home and asked my mother if I could be called Zoe. I remember she was cooking, and in her Nigerian accent she said, “Why?” I said, “Nobody can pronounce it.” Without missing a beat, she said, “If they can learn to say Tchaikovsky and Michelangelo and Dostoyevsky, they can learn to say Uzoamaka.” 

Bella Naija, 2014 (x)

becauseiamawoman

bitch-media:

On February 25, 2014, Orange is the New Black author Piper Kerman testified at the Senate Judiciary Subcommittee hearings on solitary confinement in Washington, DC. Unlike her fictional character, Kerman was never placed in solitary confinement. But she testified about the many women incarcerated alongside her who had:

While I was in prison, I saw many women sent to the SHU for minor infractions such as moving around a housing unit during a count, refusing an order from a correctional officer, and possession of low-level contraband like small amounts of cash (which is largely useless in prison) or having women’s underwear from the outside rather than prison-issued underwear. All of these infractions drew at least 30 days in solitary. Sometimes women are sent to the SHU immediately upon their arrival in prison because there aren’t any open beds.

Most politicians would rather ignore the reality of the problems with the prison system than address them head-on and risk being seen as “soft on crime.”Orange is the New Black—and Kerman’s determined attempt to link the peoples’ interest in the fictional story to real women’s suffering—has helped get Americans talking about prison in a way few pieces of pop culture have. It’s also a way to get people talking about women in the prison system rather than focusing the conversations around men. It’s also a sad truth that politicians and Americans in general are more likely to listen to a celebrity telling them about prison conditions than someone who didn’t become famous after being incarcerated. To her credit, Kerman (unlike some other celebrities who have experienced short stints behind bars) has been using her platform to advocate for change.

Read the article: Can “Orange is the New Black” Change the Way Congress Thinks About Prisons? 

smartgirlsattheparty

Anonymous asked:

What is your opinion on men who want to become feminists?

becauseiamawoman answered:

I think men can absolutely be feminists, but that they need to use their voices to elevate others instead of talk over them. The “elusive male feminist” always seems to get extra cookies for saying things that women have been saying all along, and that is fucked up.

I think this quote really says it all:

“Men who want to be feminists do not need to be given a space in feminism. They need to take the space they have in society & make it feminist.”

—Kelley Temple, National Union of Students UK Women’s Officer

That was a fantastic quote! I also question why, as a feminist, do I want more men to come out of the feminist closet? Can’t we do everything all on our own? Why do we need men to help out with feminism? Then I remember that feminism is about equality, right? Equality includes rather than excludes, doesn’t it. Yep, that’s why! But I love that part about men taking the space that they have and making it feminist!

I used to prepare to be my next age by practicing. But I found myself getting very confused about how old I am. I also realized that this was not a good practice for a person who has trouble subtracting four digit numbers in her head…that would be me. So when I would try to figure out how old I was when I became panicked about not knowing, I realized, I also looked incredibly stupid not being able to subtract (in my head) at a third grade level. That’s when I felt I understood the value of living in the present.

I read a quote today that said, “There is nothing more erotic than an amazing conversation.” True, however, awesome conversations can often be confused with regular conversations with persons who are bat shit crazy.

I fell asleep watching this comedian that wasn’t making me laugh much but he was taking a really round about way to tell me what happened in this fight he had with his girl friend, Jenny. I woke up right at the end and found out. I thought, that could not have worked out better. Awesome nap and closure.

I saw a man running the other day with super short shorts but a very full beard. This reminded me of ladies I see in the winter sporting short shorts or skirts with bare legs and big fury boots. I thought it strange which body parts people feel particular about keeping warm. I like to be all warm so naturally I look like one of the kids from A Christmas Story. However when I was looking for this image to represent what I am talking about, I fell in love with shorts and boots so naturally that is what I will be wearing. Damn you fashion media got me trending!